Foster to Adopt: Rachel and Ben’s story

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Posted on: 6 October 2015

Rachel and Ben from Exeter are almost at the end of their foster to adopt journey, with their application to adopt 26 week old Chloe due to be decided on by the courts at the end of October. They have shared their Devon Adoption story with us…

“We are so blessed to have our family completed with our beautiful Chloe, it has been a long journey but was worth all of the ups and downs.

“When we were first approached about the foster to adopt programme before being approved as adopters we said no. This was mainly because of the risk of the child going back to their birth parents. It was a purely selfish decision as we felt that we could not deal with the disappointment and devastation of losing a child we had bonded with and become attached to.

“As time went on, and we were approved as adopters, we began to think differently.  We tried to put our own feelings aside and think of the benefits of foster to adopt from the child’s point of view – the consistency and stability of having just one home.

“Our social worker warned us that foster to adopt does not tend to give you very much notice and just two weeks later we had the phone call to tell us that there was a baby who needed a placement!

“We couldn’t believe it when Chloe arrived, we felt like millionaires. She was everything we ever wanted.  The first night was the best and the most scary night of our lives.  We were in charge of the most precious thing in the world.

“We did struggle with the fact that at any point Chloe could have gone back to her birth parents. We struggled with having to call ourselves foster Mummy and foster Daddy and not just Mummy and Daddy. And we found it quite upsetting when Chloe went for her first visit to her birth parents.  However, these were all things that we had to deal with, and we did together.  We had always been a strong couple but this has made us even stronger.

“Foster to adopt is by no means an easy option. You need to be resilient, adaptable and open. It seems to go on forever and there are a lot of hurdles to jump, but it has all worked out brilliantly for us and for Chloe. She arrived with us at just four days old, and so she has only lived with us and we have provided the best home we possibly can for her.”

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More information about the scheme is available online along with details of how to get in touch with Devon Adoption.

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